I can become so afraid I have forgotten some detail in my presentation that I forget to simply enjoy the guests and make sure they are comfortable. The problem seems to be when it becomes more about me (my plans, my presentation, my ability to please) than about the guests in my home. I want them to feel honored, expected and treated well, but not at the expense of our ability to chat, laugh and enjoy our time together.
This has gotten a lot better over the last couple of years--largely due to practice. Like most things, I had to simply decide to get out there and do it. I have found that having a system of sorts (a couple of go to dishes, buffet set up, even how to best manage clean up) helps me relax tremendously.
I still have a ways to go in terms of 'loving' to entertain...but I am learning that advance preparation of my home and my heart--and an emphasis on my guests over perfection or impressiveness of my presentation-- go a long way.
I have never done a Biblical study of this topic, but a quick Internet search revealed many resources. I think some reading on hospitality may be next on my list! As I read through some of the book reviews I loved the focus on living a hospitable life...not just having a hospitable home.
Would love to hear any tips that help you feel like a more gracious lady...