Life seems to always be full of peaks and valleys, but the last couple of weeks have been a real high. I can't decide if it is the phenomenal Spring weather or the fact that my children are almost 4 years old (and acting like it)--but life is simply terrific!
Our days are full of laughter, imagination and adventure (in the Spring sunshine, no less!) This is a welcomed change from the emotional outbursts and drama (theirs and mine) that has permeated our last year. Three years old was an emotional, rough ride. Last week I was intrigued by the comments of a couple of fellow triplet Moms in an online group I am a part of. They observed that three years old was difficult for us as mothers of multiples because we have thrived and survived on schedules, order and keeping the group in sync. As our little people turn three and start spreading their little wings and testing their independence, there is little we can do to keep them in sync. As a result it feels chaotic. We feel like we have lost control--and up to this point control (or the illusion of control) has been our coping mechanism. I have been forced to learn lots of hard lessons this year. I have resisting learning to let go of the control I never really had in the first place!
As we stand on the threshhold of the children's 4th birthday, I see a real change in my little people. We are enjoying one another. I love spending time with them and really do wish I could freeze time--in this season, at this age, with this precious family.
I love the rascal that is P, always up to something. Constantly engaging in some sort of experiment. His sense of accomplishment each time he builds new 'contwapshun.' His McCauley Culkin expression each time he gets busted for confusing curiousity with destructiveness. His adorable face in the moonlight as I tuck him in and he asks me to thank God for "you and me, Mommy."
I love the little man that is R. The sports-loving child who always wants to make sure I am watching his latest athletic accomplishment. Who loves high-fives and talks in this deep, gravely voice. Whose guttural giggles could brighten the most misanthropic person's day. Whose nose snuggles can change my mood on a dime.
I love the wild woman with the messy curls that is my K. Fearless and tough yet remarkably tender and compassionate. Silly and sensitive. She treats earthworms with the same care as her baby dolls. Yet, she can surely hold her own. She is my girl.
It is an amazing blessing to not just love my children, but to genuinely like them a lot. There are still rough moments, challenging issues, difficult days. But, overall, we are in a really good place!
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I think it must be the sunshine because I am feeling the same way:) (not to negate the fact that we both have some pretty awesome kids :))
Have a great rest of the week!
I cannot believe they are fixing to be 4 years old and I know you cannot either!!!! My how time flies. They are so precious and I know you treasure everyday!!! You are so blessed and such a wonderful Mother!!! Thanks for sharing them!!!
Phyllis
... and I love their precious hearts to want to bring me flowers! That MADE my year! I will cherish that forever!
Four is a great age! And you get to do it times 3!!!!
I'm thrilled to read how you are enjoying your children.
Thanks for your kind comments on my blog. It looks to be a rough week but comments such as yours are a blessing.
So thrilled for y'all. I remember age three being tough three times over, and I can't imagine having it three times over at the same time.
Four is a fabulous year, and I pray that even tho' you can't freeze time you will drink deeply of each day's bounty in this season.
Praying for a grand day for all of you!
thanks for taking us on your journey as a mom to triplets...j, you are a terrific mom!! and i honestly can't believe they are soon to be 4! i love how different they are and your descriptions of them. they are full of life and absolutely precious!!
Three has been a particularly rough year for my children as well. I just had one at a time to deal with though. I can only imagine what having three 3yr olds would be like. But, you persevered, and look where you are now! It is wonderful to deeply love your children and also really, genuinely enjoy being with them. That is a good feeling.
Would you please send some of your fantastic spring weather our way? I'm getting glimpses of spring when we have a beautiful day every third or fourth day. But, I am really longing for a week full of 70s and sunshine!
You have NO IDEA what your last two posts have done to me.....I felt that way ALL THE WAY UP until this past year. Then suddenly, there are mean kids and worries about being liked and pressure from school work. SIGH. (And a few tears.) I don't have to tell you to RELISH IT!!!!
Age 3 is tough (I'm dreading it a little already--coming next year!) Age 4 is absolutely wonderful! Enjoy (almost) every minute!
I love this age as well and am desperate to slow time if possible. Any ideas? : )
It's a wonderful age - when you can quit being so in control and relax a bit. Enjoy it.
Four is the sweetest age.
I've had numerous people tell me three is harder than two. And, as a mama with a little boy who is 2 1/2 with three looming on the horizon, I think I agree. The drama and "fit-throwing", as I call it, is major at our house right now. I feel myself now where you were at last year.
I've also had people tell me that 3 is a challenging time for children and therefore mamas. I've never heard anything negative about 4.
It is so nice to hear a mama say how much she is enjoying her children.
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