I have noticed a trend lately. K is almost always holding things in both of her hands. It is common to find her walking down the hall with 4 toys in her arms. She cannot go upstairs or down without bringing a toy or two. We can't even load the car without an additional toy. Yesterday, she pulled a dog behind her as we walked through Barnes & Noble. (As if getting 3 toddlers across a parking lot alone is not enough of a challenge, let's add a pull toy!)
I have tried to psycho-analyze this behavior, but the best I can come up with is:
A-It is a female thing like having lots of shoes or big purses full of stuff.
B- She just wants to be prepared for whatever circumstance may arise, or
C- It is primal selfishness on display in a 2 year old.
I mean, seriously, she is playing T-Ball while holding her milk cup and a golf ball in her fist!
Is this NORMAL?
My latest theory is that my operating rules on sharing (whoever was playing with it first) may be backfiring, as she has found a loophole: Never let go of something you may want later.
In all fairness, the kiddos do share voluntarily quite often. I know how difficult it is for people--especially 2 year olds-- to be unselfish. I praise them like crazy when they show each other kindness. They say "My TURN" more than they say "Mine!" They are also learning how to negotiate trades for things they want.
But at the end of they day, they are 2 year olds--who are constantly surrounded by other 2 year olds. I have tried to give them "ownership" of certain things...lovies, toothbrushes, sippy cups. I have not "assigned" ownership to toys. I am aware of their preferences and try to give them "crib time" with their individual favorites each morning. I am constantly wondering if I am doing this all the right way!!!!
Learning to navigate these waters is tough! Any tips on how to teach them to share joyfully at this age?