Saturday we attended a birthday party where there was a trampoline. Although I grew up with one in my backyard, my husband's years of trauma/ER call have led us to a rule that our children are only allowed to jump on a trampoline one at a time. The children are aware of our stance, but this party was only the second time I have ever had to reinforce the decision in a group/peer situation.
As I watched their faces as their friends were giggling and bouncing, I got a glimpse of just how difficult parenting amidst peer pressure can/will be. I honestly felt mean and overprotective as I watched my children (the ONLY ones with this rule) sidelined and left out of the action.
I tried to be low key about it all and help the children find another activity to enjoy. I felt awkward in front of the other parents because I did not want them to think I was judging their decision to allow their children to use the trampoline. (I am certain that there are things I allow and they don't. Goodness knows, we are all just doing our best.)
Then sneaky P seized a moment when I was distracted with a sibling to climb on with a group of his friends. Even as I called his name and asked him to get down he proceeded in his disobedience. I had to walk over to the trampoline to remove him. Thankfully, he was cooperative and I did not have to climb in and drag him out mid-fit!
Because of his outright disobedience, I escorted him to a corner of the deck for time out. "But, Mom," P cried, "why do all the other Moms let their kids do it and we can't?"
There were 6-8 other Moms on the deck all watching (and listening) to the whole scene.
"I am sorry, buddy. Different Mommies have different rules."
UGGGHH!!! I know this is only the beginning...and it makes me tired.