At this point your experiences with friendship are still precious, innocent and unspoiled. You play with anyone on the playground. You don't yet have a group or a best friend. You haven't shared secrets or been betrayed. You feel deeply, you speak honestly and you play with everything you've got. You are you all the time. The world hasn't yet tried to teach you that you should pretend to be anyone else.
I am watching you with such joy--and simultaneous fear. Because I have walked this road, I know what is likely coming. I am praying about how I can help you make your way through the whole girl relationship thing. To be honest, it terrifies me.
While I have been remarkably blessed by amazing relationships, I confess I have fallen in a few potholes on the road to figuring the whole friendship thing out. There have been seasons of my life marked by unexpected betrayals, loss, distrust, insecurity, competitiveness, judgment without love, loneliness and doubt.
God has blessed my life with women who have molded and modeled my definition of true friendship. Every now and then I get a chance to escape for a bit and reconnect with some of them. This weekend I had an overnight with two precious friends who live in Alabama & North Carolina.
The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. ~Elisabeth Foley
I left reminded of what Godly relationships were meant to be about. Unselfish love. Cheering for one another without competitiveness. Encouragement to find our place in the body and BE it. Absolute trust. Honesty without judgment. Biblical advice. Comfort in my own skin with no need to impress. History.
These are the types of friendships I pray for you, sweet girl...but I know they take decades. So, in the meantime, I will pray for you. I will do my best to model them for you. I want to spare you the pain, but know you must walk your own road. It is the journey God has marked out for you. There are lessons you can only learn from the first hand experience. I promise to help you dust yourself off when you find yourself in potholes of your own.
I will walk beside you and hold your hand when appropriate, but I can't always be there. Only God can. The best thing I can do is lead you to Him and place your hand in His. I love you and I am praying for your friendships already.