Unfortunately, these things haven't been the big unpredictable things like tornadoes or cancer...these situations have largely involved the hurt that people seem to inflict on one another: adultery, addiction, deceit and frankly, plain ole mean spiritedness.
Twice I have found myself being asked for advice where I have had to stop myself from responding because what I wanted to offer was based out of my flesh and a protective love for the offended party--rather than out of the Truth that Scripture often calls us to: taking the high road, bearing, believing, hoping and loving.
I don't believe God calls us to walk into abusive situations--but I do think there are countless places where we are encouraged to do the hard thing, by loving hard people. (And many days I don't like that answer.) I think it is a cop out to just decide to walk away from every life that is messy and mired in sin. In each situation we have to pray God will show us our role. HE is the Savior, but sometimes we are called to be involved as a vessel.
As I was praying about this--confessing my wishes that life just weren't so DIFFICULT--I was reminded of a passage in Ephesians:
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Ephesians 6:12 KJV
I am typing this post as my own accountability. I think it is important in every battle to know your enemy. I pray for the self control (and, frankly, the courage) to remember: Hurting people hurt people.
Romans 12 is one of my very favorite passages in Scripture. It has a lot to say on this subject:
2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
3 For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.
10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.
18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. 20 On the contrary:
“If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”
21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.God's word on the subject is good...so challenging, so counter culture, but good nonetheless.