A friend of mine sent me this post today from Lysa TerKeurst. I immediately forwarded it to 15 friends.
What a great reminder about the danger of assumed expectations and the importance of clear communication with our spouses. I admit I have been guilty of feeling frustrated at my ability to meet expectations that I have assumed my husband or others have of me. Before I know it I am resentful and frustrated...in a conflict that I created in my brain based on assumptions rather than facts.
I have often struggled with the fact that I am not a crafty Mom. I don't grow our own vegetables, sew our own anything. It is an impressive week if I cook three meals. I don't rise up early. I am not 'done up' most days. I am not as patient as I wish to be. My list could go on and on.
I loved Lysa's encouragement to find out what the 'top things' are for our families and focus our attention there. As she says in her post, "I could spend a whole marriage doing a hundred things half-way with a bitter attitude and an overwhelmed spirit. Or, I could do three things whole-heartedly with a smile on my face and love in my heart."
Perspective is a good thing.
2 comments:
Proverbs 31 is my favorite devotion site. I use it every morning. I loved the devotion today! My husband read it tonight after he got in from work. It was very fitting for me! Lots to ponder! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much for talking about this today. We have several things in common (multiples--twins the same age as your three, but I have one two yrs. older, too--age, and others). But today you described me so well. I feel so guilty bc I am not the best housekeeper, or the best mom, or the best wife, closest to God or really amazing at anything. I feel like I fall terribly short at all my tasks. I am currently looking to step back into the workforce after 9 years and I am riddled with anxiety bc I am afraid I'm not going to measure up there, either. Anyway, I needed to hear that I am not the only person with these sorts of insecurites and frustrations with myself. I look at myself (college educated, healthy/wonderufl children, great husband, good friends) and I have so much to be thankful for, but at the same time it seems I lack so much.
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