I cannot wait for the feedback on this one...
A good friend & I have been concerned lately by our children's exposure to sexiness at the local pool. Specifically, the teeny tiny suits worn by 'big girl' teens that our little girls adore. It is concerning because our 5-6 year old girls notice all the extra skin showing and have questions. "Why are they naked?"
"Mommy, I can see her chest."
"Why do big girls like to wear swimsuits like that?"
My boys are too young for the leering to be an issue--but I am already concerned about what their little eyes are becoming accustomed to despite my diligence.
I really like to explain things to my children in a way that helps them understand the wisdom behind the rule whenever possible. It is not a matter of authority or convincing--I know I am the Mom and sometimes that is the only reason they get. But, generally speaking, I think they will be better equipped to make decisions if they understand the hows and whys behind the rules we observe.
Modesty, however, has me stumped. They are too young to understand lust and temptation--so without that as a framework, how else can you explain why you cover up and keep certain parts of your body private?
My children are, thankfully, quite modest. When I insist on a cover up to and from the pool or shirts on the boys outside the immediate pool area I use the reasoning that it is 'rude' to show your private parts. When they ask why (out of true curiosity not sassiness) I have nothing else worthwhile to add except, "It just is."
Anyone have any thoughts?
As for the teen girls--I had an eye-opening discussion with one of their Moms today regarding the real struggle to find cute, conservative suits these days. It seems there is teeny weeny and ultra-conservative and not much in between. So, if there are any resources you are aware of that still seem 'in the world' I know there are Moms who would appreciate that information.
This world is full of minefields to navigate as we protect these little eyes, ears and hearts!