A serious question: At what age is it no longer appropriate for me to take my sons into a "ladies" restroom?
Before I was a Mama to little boys, I thought it was strange that clearly potty trained boys would still come into the ladies restroom, but now...my perspective has shifted.
When my husband is with us we always split on gender lines. There are many times he is not around, someone has to go and there is not a family/companion restroom option. So, I am wondering what you other boy Moms do.
As P & R are turning 6 next month, I feel like it might be time--but I am scared. I know I can stand outside and wait, but the thought of a predator lurking makes me crazy. Last week I sent one of the boys into a restroom I consider somewhat 'safe' at the gymnastics gym. There is no outer door, so I could clearly hear in case there was anything amiss. As he entered I heard an almost-too-friendly adult male voice say, "Hello there, buddy" and it was all I could do to not follow him in.
I cleared my throat and called out, "R? Mom is right out here if you need me."
It was very frightening to think that he was vulnerable and out of my sight. This experience, even though it wound up being harmless, did more to frighten me than to reassure.
No one has stared at me funny yet, but I know that day is imminent. So, what is the age limit for crossing gender boundaries in the restroom? Any good tips?