I grew up with one other sibling--a sister. I had a lot of good guy friends in high school, but prior to parenthood, I just did not have much experience with little boys.
I had been told about the special relationship boys have with their Mamas--and it is definitely true. My little guys love me well. I must admit I am still struggling to understand how males tick. Their loving hearts, their macho tendencies, their desire to be a hero and save the day all wrapped up in precious dimpled packages.
Just yesterday at the pool, P jumped off the side repeatedly--taking breaks every few minutes to run over to me and declare his adoration with a huge hug and "I love you, Mommy." Then he would dash back to his place proving himself competent in the pool.
At home he has taken to writing me love notes with small pictures, folding them up and bringing them to me with a grin.
R is displaying similar tendencies. Independent, strong-willed and in awe of 'big boys,' he is a tough guy who plays hard. Yet, his love language is clearly physical touch. My husband and I giggle at his predictable need to 'plug in' a couple of times a day for big hugs and hand holding before he goes back out to take on the world.
I read a book years ago called Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus. I don't really remember much about the book except for a point the author, John Gray, made about males in relationships. He says men are "just like a rubber band. Men have this instinct to pull away before they can get closer. A woman pulls away when she feels misunderstood or hurt. A man pulls away to fulfill his need for independence or autonomy. When a man springs back, he picks up the relationship wherever he had left it, to the bewilderment of the woman who is still wondering why he pulled away in the first place and if she had done anything to make him pull away."
It sure does sound familiar.
Despite all their experimentation with machisimo, the boys' relationships with K seem to be doing just fine. As a matter of fact I was quite entertained to find R painting K's nails this weekend. He gave her a mani and a pedi...but he insisted on using blue polish, since that is a boy color.