My husband and I moved to Virginia 4 months after we were married. Therefore, my first big challenge as a wife was to go through and pack his 'things.' Realizing that there are certain boundaries it is wisest not to cross (especially as a newlywed), I concentrated my energies on his closet. He literally still had a Coca-Cola rugby shirt (circa 1986) and it was 2001. To this day he wears college t-shirts bearing party dates from 1991. While the teenaged lifeguards at the pool probably admire his vintage wear, I am sure they get a bigger kick out of pondering how a man has kept t-shirts older than they are.
This attachment to things is something that has definitely been passed down to K. She has always been a hoarder, developing important bonds with things like acorns, rocks and restaurant menus. As a person who thrives on purging junk, I simply don't get it. I have one box in the attic representing the meaningful things from my entire 33 years of life.
K, on the other hand, has several hiding places around the house for her special things. She collects more in a month than I have in a lifetime! I am trying to learn to be respectful of the things that are really important to her, but there have to be limits. I keep some choice artwork displayed on our refrigerator, in their playroom and in their bedrooms. I am also mindful of toys that truly are meaningful to them and never take things from their 'special places.' The reality of this age is that there are a lot of possessions that are momentarily prized, but ultimately just junk.
I used to pitch things into the garbage can immediately when I found them lying around. K discovered this and now checks all of the garbage cans daily to make sure I haven't disposed of anything of hers. My amended strategy is to hide things (like restaurant kids' menus, coloring pages, Happy Meal toys, birthday party goodie bag contents) on top of the refrigerator or in my closet. If an item is not inquired about within a week or so, I pitch it--into an outside garbage can where it cannot be found. So far, this has yielded terrific results. I think I have had to fish one or two items out of purgatory...everything else has moved on without fanfare.
So, I am curious...are you gasping that I do this? How do you handle 'treasures'? Am I cold hearted...or normal?