God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. Amen.
~ by Reinhold Niebuhr
I realized today that a shift is happening in my approach to motherhood. I am "calming down" a little and realizing that no matter how hard I pray, work, will, enforce, discipline, (gulp) even yell...these little people are going to go through phases of development that include rebellion, grumpiness and sassiness. Rather than foolishly fight the inevitable (which is clearly fruitless), I will take a deep breath and dive in...as an adult gently guiding them out of it, rather than a fellow fit-throwing toddler who is as (or more) frustrated than they are.
I am realizing that my foolish pride has again been my enemy as I must have somehow believed my children would be exempt from these difficult phases. Surely good parenting could mitigate some of this behavior! (Insert hysterical laughter here.)
“. . .don’t be surprised at the fiery trials you are going through, as if something strange were happening to you.” (I Peter 4:12)
I once thought coming to this place was akin to giving up. I am beginning to realize it is not surrendering to the children, it is surrendering to reality. And relying on the Sovereignty of God more than the strength of my flesh.
There is not a perfect parent on Earth. The greatest thing we can do for our children is love them and show them the love of God in a real and meaningful way. I am praying that God will let this peace and serenity settle into my heart and become an integral part of my parenting. IT IS NOT NATURAL FOR ME. I am, however, reassured by the Word.
"And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Phillipians 4:7
Even as I have chosen to cling to this place of peace, trust and serenity today has presented its own challenges. Again I am reassured that this is all common to the human experience and Christ stands at the ready with a wonderful invitation and promise.
“Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke fits perfectly, and the burden I carry is light” Matthew 11:29-30