I really like Anna Quindlen. The truth is, I do not always agree with her. I am more conservative morally and politically than Anna--so I always filter what I read from her through my own Christian worldview...but she is so spot on in her ability to articulate the things I am often feeling, that I cannot ignore her.
My mother-in-law sent me a terrific essay Anna wrote about parenting. I have spent far too much time on google trying to find the source of the essay so I could link to it. So far, I have only found it reproduced on blogs, but here is a quote that really resonated with me.
"The biggest mistake I made is the one that most of us make while doing this. I did not live in the moment enough. This is particularly clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs. There is one picture of the three of them sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing set on a summer day, ages 6, 4 and 1. And I wish I could remember what we ate, and what we talked about, and how they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: dinner, bath, book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it done a little less." (Anna Quindlen)
As I was searching for the source article, I came across this archived article of hers from Newsweek. Telling the story of the high school teacher that the Freedom Writers book and movie were based upon, Anna writes,
"In the age of the telephone most communication became evanescent, gone into thin air no matter how important or heartfelt. Think of all those people inside the World Trade Center saying goodbye by phone. If only, in the blizzard of paper that followed the collapse of the buildings, a letter had fallen from the sky for every family member and friend, something to hold on to, something to read and reread. Something real. Words on paper confer a kind of immortality. Wouldn't all of us love to have a journal, a memoir, a letter, from those we have loved and lost? Shouldn't all of us leave a bit of that behind?"
And so for those who ask me why I stare at this laptop daily and attempt to capture shreds of the laughter, tears, frustration, chaos, growth and LIFE taking place...It is not so much about immortality for me, but rather about an ongoing narrative that makes me slow down and reflect at the end of the day. It is not enough to just seize the days, I want to savor them as well. (and since I have not recorded one single thing in a traditional baby book, it serves that purpose, too.)
Seize it and savor it!
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Wonderful posts. My girls are now 11 and almost 9. I wish I could remember more details too.
Blogs are the Baby Book of today!
I also like Anna. I hadn't read those quotes...good stuff.
You'll be so glad later that you blogged about your kiddies! Like Melene, I wish I could remember more about my daughter's younger days.
I really like that. There are times that I wonder why I blog...and times I wonder why I am not blogging...so thanks for helping me see its importance--though not a necessity or priority over some other things, it is important and can have such sweet flavor later in life...Hope you and the kids are doing well.
Thanks for the reminder....it is going way to fast. I have been made so aware of that lately as I find myself being driven around by my dd as she gets road practice. It is a surreal experience to sit in the passenger seat and know that in less than a year she may very well be able to grab her car keys and go off...alone. I am hearing the ticking of the clock especially loud these days.
My husband asked me why I blog...he doesn't quite understand but my family knows I "blog".
I think I'll send them this entry from your blog... it is beautifully written...
Maybe it can be a legacy for us all one day...
Thanks Jen
I agree. That's why I blog too. To capture these moments and savor them as much as possible. Thanks for sharing your heart.
Michelle
I just want you to know that your "Lots of Scotts" is one of my near-daily blessings in my life. You can't believe how my heart just is filled everytime I look at the pictures of your beautiful family. Most of all, I am encouraged by knowing you younger Christian mothers are training up the next generation to love our Lord! God bless you for sharing your heart and life. I pray for you to enjoy every minute of your children because it IS true...it goes by so quickly!
Amen, Jenmom, Amen! I agree wholeheartedly!
I think you do an awesome job of capturing the details of daily life! What fun reading it will make in the years to come for you, your children, their children, and on and on!
I absolutely love both quotes. Thanks for sharing!
Jen,
You are so blest to have this opportunity to blog. When our oldest was four, and the twins arrived in 1984, home computers were only for those with a home business. My husband being in business had a computer and wanted to teach me how to use it, but the first computers had a different language and were "unfriendly" to use. I was so busy with the three children, and especially caring for premature twins, that learning something new was not an option. One thing for certain.....I hope my daughter and daugher-in-laws will blog and never forget the many precious things that children do and say. You are such an inspiration to me. I know you have been voted for the "thinking blog award", but have you ever thought about writing a book? You have a unique way of exressing your words, and with your spiritual knowlege and love for our Lord, many young mothers need to hear what you have to say. Think about it....OK?
Love this post and you are right on. Just last night Jon and I were outside playing with the kids together and it was such a fun moment that I told Jon to hold on a sec so I could get the camera as I knew it would be something to blog about! You were my inspiration to start blogging. I am so glad that I do. It is like my secret little world. I feel like I have "blog" friends! One day when my kids look back at this blog and how I have tried to capture what life is like I know they will be so grateful and it is something that my grandchildren and their grandchilren will have forever.
Thank you for being such a wonderful inspiration and if you do write a book I will be the first to purchase it.
Nicole
Jen!
Hi!!! it's Cindy Carmichael...LOVE your site...will visit often.
we are good - Merritt just turned 4 and Whit will be 1 May 23 - it does fly. Randi is having twins? and soon it seems!
hope to catch up with you - love to you and your precious family.
Hey...did you know that there's a company that takes your blog entries and makes them into a hard bound book? It would make a good substitute for a baby book. Hey R, K, P....here's what we did every single day while you were growing up... and not only that here's some of your mommy's spiritual journey as well. I'm a compulsive scrapbooker. My son is not even a year and almost on book number 2, but that only captures big events like birthdays, festivals... your blog captures everyday...
The first Quindlen quote kind of breaks my heart a little. My boys are teenagers now and while I was a dedicated scrapbooker/baby book maker, blogs were not around back then. In scrapbooks you record the big things - but those are things you remember anyway. In blogs - and yours especially - you record the everyday things: the sounds of things, the daily events. Those things are WAY easier to forget in time. You are going to be so glad you "blogged". And so are your children.
Jen,
Thank you for sharing those words. I do not know who Anna is, however I am now grateful to have read those words.
I have the luxury? in Canada of having one year of maternity leave and due to having a preemie and the lovely RSV in daycares, got a further LOA from work to total 18 months home. 18 months without a pay cheque of any substance was daunting so I have been picking up odd jobs here and there while I on leave... and now here it is, 37 days til I go back to work and I forgot to stop and smell the roses.
So for the next 37 days, I will be remembering what we did, what we said (or baby-talked), and smelling the roses. Thank you.
I heartily agree...I keep baby books, a picture web page, but documenting our days little by little on the blog will (I hope) be something I (and they) will treasure.
The link to the column by Anna Quindlen you were looking for is below:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/9274174/site/newsweek/
The title of the full article is Write for your Life. It also lists other columns she has written for Newsweek.
Thanks for sharing!!
I followed a link from Marybeth Whalen's blog to your post about blogging. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and Anna Quindlen's quotes. They echo the song of my heart and challenge I face each day to live in the moment. I needed to hear this message again this morning.
God Bless,
Elisa
That quotation is from her book "Loud and Clear"
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