During my laundry sorting a few days ago, I listened to an Andy Stanley talk on 'Staying in Love.'
I was struck by one particular part where Andy spoke of a hypothetical marriage counseling session with Jesus. He imagined a scenario like this (I am paraphrasing here.)
Jesus: Are you loving your wife?
Man: I used to.
Jesus: Then go home and love each other.
Man: But we really don't anymore.
Jesus: That's precisely your problem. You gotta do it then you'll feel it. Quit treating love like a noun and treat it like a verb instead. The foundation for a long term love relationship is to make love a verb.
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. John 13:34
The world says love is a noun, a feeling, a fleeting thing that can be kindled or lost. Jesus commands us to make it a verb. There are no caveats for feelings and/or whether it has been earned or not. We are simply told to do it.
Our love must not be a thing of words and fine talk. It must be a thing of action and sincerity.
1 John 3:18