tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post2802151328042384423..comments2023-12-26T10:45:55.481-05:00Comments on Lots of Scotts: When Your Kid is the OneJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03903375700915031290noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-67835704180983064912012-02-26T09:55:15.994-05:002012-02-26T09:55:15.994-05:00I have been a reader for a while but never comment...I have been a reader for a while but never commented before now. I have "that kid" here in my house as well. He is an amazing 16 year old that was diagnosed as bi-polar last year. School has never been an easy place for him but he somehow finds a way to muddle through....until recently. The social aspect of school is just escaping him. He has no true friends and the people he thought were at least friendly were overhead talking about how he is the "creepy weird kid" last week. It is so hard not to step in as him mom. He doesn't want us to make any waves and potentially make things worse for him. Struggling to find the right balance here.Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05345221369411230252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-41643374065906650762012-02-25T13:06:22.596-05:002012-02-25T13:06:22.596-05:00Thank you for a beautiful article.
I have a beauti...Thank you for a beautiful article.<br />I have a beautifu 7 year old Grandson who is "That Kid".He was like your little one and all the others,fellow classmates would make fun of him, a parent even suggested he not participate in sports as he had had a bad practice session,we as Grandparents thought he needed more discilpline as he would yell and argure, throwing fits etc,it was not until he entered Kindergarten that a wonderful Principal suggested he be tested and found out that he has Asperger syndrome,a form of Autism. We and his teachers, and coach now know why he does/acts the way he does at times.<br />God has blessed us with this intelligent, loving, little boy,we also know now that "that kid" just needs alot of understanding and Love.Bernicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14792963039328467845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-40423394522211648082012-02-24T23:23:31.270-05:002012-02-24T23:23:31.270-05:00i literally haven't read your blog in a year (...i literally haven't read your blog in a year (i used to read all the time but i've been on a bit of an internet hiatus ;) i just opened it up and this is what i read. i've been struggling with my oldest son, also 7 in march and in first grade. he's totally THAT kid! principles office twice. did i mention he's in first grade? anywho, it's been disappointing and difficult, but i too see God working and changing him. but it's been haaaaaard. especially when you feel so responsible as a parent who's read "all the right books" ;) i'm just praying for him all the time. he's gonna be great someday, when it all gets harnessed for good :) xoxoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04612923684459909667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-90546175816427533832012-02-24T18:31:05.608-05:002012-02-24T18:31:05.608-05:00Such good words of wisdom and encouragement. Thank...Such good words of wisdom and encouragement. Thank you!! Whew, motherhood!!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03903375700915031290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-59831024296711731912012-02-24T17:30:42.369-05:002012-02-24T17:30:42.369-05:00One piece of advice I have is to try (easy to say,...One piece of advice I have is to try (easy to say, difficult to do) to not "ride" the social roller coaster w/ him. Try to keep your own feet firmly planted on the ground, and not be too happy (relieved?) when there's a social success, or too devastated when he comes home and describes a difficult social situation. Otherwise you are going to get whiplash, and if you are able to stay centered and measured about all of the social ups and downs, you will be in a better place to guide him through. Also! Never ever "interview" your child for pain (emotional social pain)....this is something I'm working on--not easy.Pam & Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03057492837749243332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-91100321245824889322012-02-24T15:49:58.691-05:002012-02-24T15:49:58.691-05:00God bless your momma heart. It's so hard as a...God bless your momma heart. It's so hard as a mom to decide when to get involved and when to just hug the child who has been hurt.<br />One lesson I've been talking a lot with my girls about is that you can't always judge a child for how they are acting today; we are all a work in progress. The geek of today will be the Bill Gates of tomorrow and the wallflower today will be Robin Roberts of the future.<br /><br />Hang in there. Keep on praying that the "child" you see everyday and the heart you know so well that others will see too. They will!Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10552826430967783650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-11328531606605724882012-02-24T12:42:44.649-05:002012-02-24T12:42:44.649-05:00I too had one of those kids, who always wanted to ...I too had one of those kids, who always wanted to be first, the best and share his ideas. We had lots of "those" talks over dinners and still do. He is a senior and has figured out how to put that competitive spirit into work as he will graduate with above a 4.0 and just signed his acceptance card to become part of the West Point Class of 2016. Lots of prayers have and will be continued to be lifted up as he ventures into this next journey. I love your mothering and sharing. God's richest Blessings!Leslihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14472330151689540641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-87803467985255376502012-02-24T11:27:00.659-05:002012-02-24T11:27:00.659-05:00I agree with Ginny! You really should write a boo...I agree with Ginny! You really should write a book! We've never met, but I really enjoy reading your blog. I'm still relatively new to this Mommy thing. :) I appreciate the wisdom and thoughfulness that you put into your posts.<br />P.S. I WAS "that kid". It was hard and is sometimes still hard even though I've matured enough to be able to "give others a turn". As an adult I see the positives to having this personality and am learning to embrace the things that make me, me. Praying for you and your little ones!The Ryanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17549596664490930833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-52263996940398954312012-02-24T09:37:49.063-05:002012-02-24T09:37:49.063-05:00Jen, I'm sure I'm not the first to suggest...Jen, I'm sure I'm not the first to suggest it, but you should write a book. You've not only got the special gift of communicating and painting this unforgettable picture of life, but you also say words that are God-filled and powerful to help so many. One day I believe you will...OR you could be on a large speaking circuit sharing these great truths. You are such an awesome wife, mother, friend, minister, and human being!!!Ginnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06935296805159786778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-53228979546603896312012-02-24T07:03:32.863-05:002012-02-24T07:03:32.863-05:00I get this...I really do. :)I get this...I really do. :)Immeasurably More Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06143093394307413930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-7491687755167621652012-02-24T07:03:26.359-05:002012-02-24T07:03:26.359-05:00I get this...I really do. :)I get this...I really do. :)Immeasurably More Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06143093394307413930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-49455659444053143412012-02-24T06:56:42.764-05:002012-02-24T06:56:42.764-05:00I had one of those....still do. He is in his 30...I had one of those....still do. He is in his 30's and still has those rough edges and that competitive spirit. I tried to tone him down and smooth those edges out but, it's who he is. He is a married man with children now so, he made it. And underneath those edges is the man who always greets every person in a crowded room. He always tells me he loves me before we hang up the phone and he will probably be the one by my side rubbing my hand when I am taking my last breathes. He probably *needs*me more than the others...though it's not what his actions show. He has never had the most friends, but he has the BIGGeST heart. And Jesus is pleased with that....this mom is too.<br /><br />Hang in there....keep giving life lessons. There is a lot of hurt along the way. I use to think I was the only one hurting, but he hurt too. I will remember to pray for yours as I pray for mine. It will be ok. Promise.Love Being A Nonnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10510618983227889123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-47912046438755844212012-02-23T23:29:01.736-05:002012-02-23T23:29:01.736-05:00Thank God for the PROCESS. I had one too. He wan...Thank God for the PROCESS. I had one too. He wanted to be right and perfect.... And never wrong. I use make him say. It's ok to make a mistake! Stay with it. God matches right parents to children.Diane Tohlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07249548713095097962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14642592.post-74374580599941812112012-02-23T22:38:04.480-05:002012-02-23T22:38:04.480-05:00My son has been the "one" also. He has ...My son has been the "one" also. He has a strong personality and loves to lead. Pre-K, Kindergarten and first grade have been a challenge so far. But I do see him changing and maturing. The Lord isn't finished with him yet =)davec777https://www.blogger.com/profile/02110835152867805668noreply@blogger.com